I have tried everything my non-technical brain could come up with: fullly formatting my harddrive and reinstalling EQ, updating all drivers (including chipset and system Bios), checking CPU temp, checking memory sticks for defunctness, playing with the WinEQ settings, playing with the in-game display settings, disabling all non-requires services and background programs..
I have no virus programs or firewalls running to interfere, no spyware...
My tiny brain is out of ideas.

I browsed through the forums here on the same topics and most of the solutions there were things I have tried, so Im hoping one of you guys might have other ideas.
Would turning off EQPlay nice make it better or worse? Any other settings I can play with to improve things or is there something wrong with my Sysinfo? From everything I know (which I'll admit isnt tons), my system should be running two instances like a champ, not a chump. =/
Help a sad girl out please!
WinEQ 2 System Information
System:
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Windows Version: Microsoft Windows XP/Service Pack 2/2600.xpsp_sp2_gdr.050301-1519
System Physical RAM: 729/2558MB
Page File: 6828/8596MB
Virtual Memory: 1156/2047MB (Extended: 0MB)
CPU 1: Intel(R) Pentium(R) 4 CPU 3.20GHz @ 3192MHz
CPU 2: Intel(R) Pentium(R) 4 CPU 3.20GHz @ 3192MHz
CPU Affinity Mask: 1
Video 1: \\.\DISPLAY1/NVIDIA GeForce 7950 GT
Video 2: \\.\DISPLAYV1/NetMeeting driver
Video 3: \\.\DISPLAYV2/RDPDD Chained DD
Monitor 1: \\.\DISPLAY1 (0,0,1024,768) (1024x768) PRIMARY
Sound: ?
DirectX: 4.09.00.0904
Internet Explorer: 7.0.5730.11
WinEQ: 2.14
Loaded Modules:
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Module 0: c:\program files\sony\everquest\eqgame.exe
Module 1: C:\WINDOWS\system32\ntdll.dll
Module 2: C:\WINDOWS\system32\kernel32.dll
Module 3: c:\program files\sony\everquest\mss32.dll
Module 4: C:\WINDOWS\system32\USER32.dll
Module 5: C:\WINDOWS\system32\GDI32.dll
Module 6: C:\WINDOWS\system32\WINMM.dll
Module 7: C:\WINDOWS\system32\ADVAPI32.dll
Module 8: C:\WINDOWS\system32\RPCRT4.dll
Module 9: C:\WINDOWS\system32\WSOCK32.dll
Module 10: C:\WINDOWS\system32\WS2_32.dll
Module 11: C:\WINDOWS\system32\msvcrt.dll
Module 12: C:\WINDOWS\system32\WS2HELP.dll
Module 13: C:\WINDOWS\system32\DINPUT8.dll
Module 14: C:\WINDOWS\system32\d3dx9_30.dll
Module 15: c:\program files\sony\everquest\DSETUP.dll
Module 16: C:\WINDOWS\system32\VERSION.dll
Module 17: C:\WINDOWS\system32\ole32.dll
Module 18: C:\WINDOWS\system32\WININET.dll
Module 19: C:\WINDOWS\system32\SHLWAPI.dll
Module 20: C:\WINDOWS\system32\Normaliz.dll
Module 21: C:\WINDOWS\system32\iertutil.dll
Module 22: C:\WINDOWS\system32\SHELL32.dll
Module 23: C:\WINDOWS\system32\IMM32.dll
Module 24: C:\WINDOWS\WinSxS\x86_Microsoft.Windows.Common-Controls_6595b64144ccf1df_6.0.2600.2982_x-ww_ac3f9c03\comctl32.dll
Module 25: C:\WINDOWS\system32\comctl32.dll
Module 26: C:\Program Files\WinEQ2\WinEQ2.dll
Module 27: C:\WINDOWS\system32\PSAPI.DLL
Module 28: C:\Program Files\WinEQ2\Lavish.dll
Module 29: C:\WINDOWS\system32\iphlpapi.dll
Module 30: C:\WINDOWS\system32\mswsock.dll
Module 31: C:\WINDOWS\system32\hnetcfg.dll
Module 32: C:\WINDOWS\System32\wshtcpip.dll
Module 33: C:\WINDOWS\system32\DNSAPI.dll
Module 34: C:\WINDOWS\System32\winrnr.dll
Module 35: C:\WINDOWS\system32\WLDAP32.dll
Module 36: C:\WINDOWS\system32\rasadhlp.dll
Module 37: C:\Program Files\WinEQ2\WinEQ2-EQ.dll
Module 38: C:\WINDOWS\system32\MSIMG32.dll
Module 39: C:\Program Files\WinEQ2\WinEQ2-D3D9.dll
Module 40: C:\Program Files\WinEQ2\WinEQ2-D3D8.dll
Module 41: C:\Program Files\WinEQ2\WinEQ2-DI8.dll
Module 42: C:\Program Files\WinEQ2\EQPlayNice.dll
Module 43: C:\WINDOWS\system32\MSCTF.dll
Module 44: C:\WINDOWS\system32\msctfime.ime
Module 45: C:\WINDOWS\system32\NTMARTA.DLL
Module 46: C:\WINDOWS\system32\SAMLIB.dll
Module 47: c:\program files\sony\everquest\EQGraphicsDX9.DLL
Module 48: C:\WINDOWS\system32\d3d9.dll
Module 49: C:\WINDOWS\system32\d3d8thk.dll
Module 50: c:\program files\sony\everquest\dpvs.dll
Module 51: C:\WINDOWS\system32\ctagent.dll
Module 52: C:\WINDOWS\system32\HID.DLL
Module 53: C:\WINDOWS\system32\SETUPAPI.DLL
Module 54: C:\WINDOWS\system32\WINTRUST.dll
Module 55: C:\WINDOWS\system32\CRYPT32.dll
Module 56: C:\WINDOWS\system32\MSASN1.dll
Module 57: C:\WINDOWS\system32\IMAGEHLP.dll
Module 58: C:\WINDOWS\system32\OLEAUT32.DLL
Module 59: c:\program files\sony\everquest\mssmp3.asi
Module 60: c:\program files\sony\everquest\mssvoice.asi
Module 61: c:\program files\sony\everquest\mssa3d.m3d
Module 62: c:\program files\sony\everquest\mssds3d.m3d
Module 63: c:\program files\sony\everquest\mssdx7.m3d
Module 64: c:\program files\sony\everquest\msseax.m3d
Module 65: c:\program files\sony\everquest\mssrsx.m3d
Module 66: C:\WINDOWS\system32\MSACM32.dll
Module 67: c:\program files\sony\everquest\msssoft.m3d
Module 68: c:\program files\sony\everquest\mssdsp.flt
Module 69: C:\WINDOWS\system32\wdmaud.drv
Module 70: C:\WINDOWS\system32\msacm32.drv
Module 71: C:\WINDOWS\system32\midimap.dll
Module 72: C:\WINDOWS\system32\DSOUND.DLL
Module 73: C:\WINDOWS\system32\KsUser.dll
Direct3D9:
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Driver: NVIDIA GeForce 7950 GT/nv4_disp.dll/6/14/10/9371
Adapter Display Mode: 1024x768 D3DFMT_X8R8G8B8
Game Display Mode: 1280x1024 D3DFMT_X8R8G8B8 (Full Screen)
Current Adapter: 0
Available Texture Memory: 652MB
Direct3D8:
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Adapter Display Mode: 0x0 D3DFMT_UNKNOWN
Game Display Mode: 0x0 D3DFMT_UNKNOWN
Current Adapter: 0
Available Texture Memory: (not currently available)
DirectInput8:
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EverQuest:
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Profile 1: Khaylia
EQ Path: c:\program files\sony\everquest
EQClient.ini: .\eqclient.ini
Patch: ON Server Type: Normal Locale: us
Video Adapter: Application Controlled
Luclin models: 29 (+145 min RAM)
Sound: ON (+22 min RAM)
Texture Caching: ON (+0 min RAM)
Texture Quality: MEDIUM (+30 min RAM)
Sky: COMPLEX (+10 min RAM)
Calculated minimum RAM: 490MB (BASE+207MB)
Level of Detail: 0
MaxFPS: 100
Additional setting: VertexShaders=TRUE
Additional setting: 20PixelShaders=TRUE
Additional setting: 1xPixelShaders=TRUE
EQPlayNice:
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EQ Version: eqgame.exe Jan 15 2007 11:12:58
Foreground
Mode: FPS Limiter
Max FPS: 35
Rendering: 1/1
Background
Mode: FPS Limiter
Max FPS: 35
Rendering: 1/1